{"id":616,"date":"2015-10-17T18:00:16","date_gmt":"2015-10-17T23:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mndare.org\/WordPress\/?p=616"},"modified":"2015-10-17T18:04:18","modified_gmt":"2015-10-17T23:04:18","slug":"october-is-domestic-violence-awareness-month","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mndare.org\/WordPress\/blog\/2015\/10\/17\/october-is-domestic-violence-awareness-month\/","title":{"rendered":"October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>\u201cThe number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was <\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.upworthy.com\/dont-believe-in-the-war-on-women-would-a-body-count-change-your-mind\"><em>6,488<\/em><\/a><em>. The number of American women who were murdered by current or ex male partners during that time was <\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.upworthy.com\/dont-believe-in-the-war-on-women-would-a-body-count-change-your-mind\"><em>11,766<\/em><\/a><em>. That&#8217;s nearly double the amount of casualties lost during war.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>This statistic came from a recent Huffington Post article. \u00a0It went on to state that \u201c<em>3 women are murdered every day by a current or former male partner in the U.S.\u201d\u00a0 <\/em>And \u201c<em>38,028,000 is the number of women who have experienced physical intimate partner violence in their lifetimes.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong><u>October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.\u00a0 We need to start acknowledging the problem, if we are going to be able to prevent it!<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Starting when our children are young, they need to learn the difference between healthy, unhealthy, and abusive relationships.\u00a0 Talk to your children about the warning signs of dating abuse.<\/p>\n<p>Here is a list from \u201cBreaking the Cycle\u201d (<a title=\"http:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/warning-signs\" href=\"http:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/warning-signs\">http:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/warning-signs<\/a>)<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Checking cell phones, emails or social networks without permission<\/li>\n<li>Extreme jealousy or insecurity<\/li>\n<li>Constant belittling or put-downs<\/li>\n<li>Explosive temper<\/li>\n<li>Isolation from family and friends<\/li>\n<li>Making false accusations<\/li>\n<li>Erratic mood swings<\/li>\n<li>Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way<\/li>\n<li>Possessiveness<\/li>\n<li>Telling someone what to do<\/li>\n<li>Repeatedly pressuring someone to have sex<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If you or someone you know is in danger, get help.\u00a0 Here is some helpful information from the Domestic Violence Awareness Project &#8211;\u00a0 <a title=\"http:\/\/www.nrcdv.org\/dvam\/safety-alert\" href=\"http:\/\/www.nrcdv.org\/dvam\/safety-alert\">http:\/\/www.nrcdv.org\/dvam\/safety-alert<\/a><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Call 911.<\/li>\n<li>Contact your local hotline.<\/li>\n<li>Contact a national hotline:\n<ul>\n<li>Call the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.<\/li>\n<li>Call, text or chat Love Is Respect\u2014the U.S. National Teen Dating Violence Helpline: 1-866-331-9474 or TTY 1-866-331-8453, text &#8220;loveis&#8221; to 77054 or live chat at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.loveisrespect.org\/\">http:\/\/www.loveisrespect.org<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>Call the U.S. National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE), which automatically connects you to a local U.S. rape crisis program based on the area code of your phone number. Secure, online private chat is available at <a href=\"https:\/\/ohl.rainn.org\/online\/\">https:\/\/ohl.rainn.org\/online\/<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Here are some additional safety tips to remember:<\/p>\n<p><strong>*<\/strong>Corded phones are more private and less able to be intercepted than cordless phones or analog cell phones.<\/p>\n<p><strong>*<\/strong>You may not be able to reach 911 using an Internet phone or Internet-based phone service, so you may need to be prepared to use another phone to call 911.<\/p>\n<p><strong>*<\/strong>Contact your local domestic violence program, shelter, or rape crisis center to learn about free cell phone donation programs.<\/p>\n<h5><strong>Tips for Using Technology<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p><strong>If you think your activities are being monitored, they probably are.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Abusive people are often controlling and want to know your every move. You don&#8217;t need to be a computer programmer or have special skills to monitor someone&#8217;s computer and Internet activities. Anyone can do it and there are many ways to monitor with programs like Spyware, keystroke loggers, and hacking tools.<\/p>\n<p><strong>It is not possible to delete or clear all the &#8220;footprints&#8221; of your computer or online activities.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you are being monitored, it may be dangerous to change your computer behaviors such as suddenly deleting your entire Internet history if that is not your regular habit.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you think you may be monitored on your home computer, be careful how you use your computer since an abuser might become suspicious.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You may want to keep using the monitored computer for innocuous activities, like looking up the weather. Use a safer computer to research an escape plan, to look for new jobs, apartments or bus tickets, or to ask for help.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Email and Instant\/Text Messaging (IM) are not safe or confidential ways to talk to someone about the danger or abuse in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If possible, please call a hotline instead. If you use email or IM, please use a safer computer and an account your abuser does not know about.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Computers can store a lot of private information.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This includes what you look at via the Internet, the emails and instant messages you send, Internet-based phone and IP-TTY calls you make, Web-based purchases and banking, and many other activities.<\/p>\n<p><b>It might be safer to use a computer in a public library, at a community technology center (CTC), at a trusted friend&#8217;s house, or at an Internet Cafe. <\/b>Modern technology and social networks change frequently. Educate yourself by reading about the NRCDV&#8217;s <a href=\"http:\/\/vawnet.org\/special-collections\/TechSafety.php\"><em>Tech Safety Resources<\/em><\/a>. This special collection of selected articles, fact sheets, papers, reports and other materials are designed to assist advocates and survivors interested in understanding the safe use of technology.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cThe number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. 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