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What is D.A.R.E.???
 
MN D.A.R.E. is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization, governed by a
Minnesota board of directors, comprised of community members. Our mission is to educate and advocate for the safety and well-being of our Minnesota children through a collaboration with law enforcement officers, parents, schools, and community. We are a combination of prevention education and a relationship between our communities and law enforcement. The key to D.A.R.E. has ALWAYS been about relation- ships which is why the program has flourished for 30 years in Minnesota.

Many communities are now struggling with the relationship between law enforcement and the communities they serve. Minneapolis was one of the first cities in Minnesota that chose to drop D.A.R.E. programming back in 1998. Former Attorney General Hubert H. Humphrey III (Skip) and Former Senator Norm Coleman (who then worked with the AG) brought the D.A.R.E. program to Minnesota in 1989; a bipartisan effort.  They formed the non-profit, Minnesota D.A.R.E. in 1990, to administer the program as a 501(c)3. When Minneapolis announced they were dropping D.A.R.E. to replace it with liaison officers, Skip and Kathi Ackerman, the Executive Director of Minnesota D.A.R.E. met with the mayor, police chief, and superintendent. They begged them to continue community policing (DARE Officers; non-arresting officers) instead of liaison officers which are arresting officers in our high schools. With this move, many students would have their first experiences with law enforcement, a negative experience, and no positive exposure. Also, studies had begun to show that the key finding with D.A.R.E. was that the children and their parents not only learned from the officers but the officers learned from the children. These DARE officers began to better understand the community by working with the children. Minneapolis dropped the program anyway. Since 1998, other communities that kept the program have continued a growing relationship with the people in their communities. Some of the children are now adults with children of their own. The relationships continuesand communication channels are still open.  

Hope lies in future generations. It is difficult to bridge the gap when trust has been broken. Biases become ingrained. We must work on relationships build on mutual trust and respect. In 2016, Former Governor Dayton formed the Governor’s Council on Law Enforcement and Communities. Ackerman, spoke to the Governor’s Office about being a part of that group and was invited to help as a secretary. For months, community leaders and top law enforcement met, listened to ideas and speakers, and hosted listening session in our communities. Policy recommendations were made in 2017. Many of those recommendations were centered around community policing and involvement, better training, and to start by building trust with our children. Minnesota D.A.R.E. has taken those recommendations and tried to incorporate what we can in our programming. We continue to encourage ALL Minnesota law enforcement agencies to go beyond one-time community events to building relationships and working together with their communities. We have added training in mental health and diversity components. And, of course, we believe that our hope lies with our children.

We cannot do it this alone.  
Minnesota D.A.R.E.  is a small non-profit.  We are not government funded or controlled.  We have approximately 250 – 300 specially-training law enforcement officers that are certified to teach the D.A.R.E. program.  These officers are dedicated and love the children they serve. As the pandemic started they were called back to the streets but were still working double duty to finish up their programs in the schools. They knew the kids were counting on them. Minnesota D.A.R.E. has a system in place to quickly disseminate information and training to these officers. We bring together communities with local law enforcement. We work closely with schools and parents and have curriculum that is developed and evaluated by independent researchers and universities. We are NOT just a drug and alcohol program but are instead a social-emotional learning system. We can provide information on many safety topics very quickly for Pre-K – 12th grade, communities, and parents. Minnesota D.A.R.E. represents ALL children. We are not a reactive program but a prevention program. D.A.R.E. teaches students that there is positive strength in numbers. We are stronger when we work together. 

Let’s all join together for the health and safety of our Minnesota children and families and work on rebuilding trust.  

You can support your Minnesota D.A.R.E. programming by donating at   http://www.mndare.org

To start a D.A.R.E. program in your community or schools, contact Minnesota D.A.R.E. at mndare@aol.com

Dear Minnesota Children’s Safety Net:

During these trying times, I want to first and foremost say; Minnesota D.A.R.E. is a children’s organization.  Our mission is to educate and advocate for the safety and well-being of ALL of our Minnesota children.  We do this through a collaboration with law enforcement officers, parents, schools, and communities.  We are NOT a government organization or a law enforcement agency.  We are governed by a Minnesota Board of Directors made of members of our communities.

This blog is intended to help support parents, guardians, educators, families, and other role models.  I know that the tips I provide will not fit all children.  They are only designed to give you some possible ideas.  I also know that every child’s experiences, especially right now, are very different.  This is a very difficult time for our children and for parents/guardians/educators.  Let’s do this…

“Together for our Children”

We need everyone to come together to keep our Minnesota children safe and healthy! Let’s make a safety net.

***This blog is for adults.  The Kid’s Blog will be discussing important information for our children.   You can check at: http://www.mndare.org/WordPress/kids/

Many of you have been isolating at home with your kids. Some have experienced Covid 19 in their families or are healthcare providers that are under heavy stress. Others are in neighborhoods that have law enforcement and the National Guard present.  Here are just some things you may try to remember as we deal with our own fears and our children’s feelings about their experience.

  • Help your child feel safe, often. This is a time for hugs (social distancing with those outside your home), warm smiles, positive reinforcement, patience, and lots of your time.  If your situation gets to be too much; take a time out, go outside, walk, exercise, breathe, find an adult to talk to, and re-group.
  • Do not expect children to have the ability and tools to handle adult issues.  They do not understand the big picture; they still live in a small world.  Do not use them as an adult confidant.  This is a very scary time and definitely out of their control.
  • Be a good role model.  You are the most important role model in their life.  Children hear and see everything.  This is one of my favorite quotes:

“What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.” 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

  • Children have a tendency to take things, personally.  Example: If you are fighting with your spouse, they may think it is because they said or did something earlier.  If you separate or divorce, they may think they are the reason.  Do not tell them “you” make me mad.  You are responsible for your own feelings, not them.  Instead say “Mom’s getting mad and needs a break.”  Their behavior may be a problem but if you tell them they are bad, they will own that label.  With the label, the behavior will match.
  • Remember children learn what they live.  This is a very different time; look at things through their eyes.  What are your reactions? What do they see or think they see?  Remember, children (and others) mirror you.  When you are angry and yell at someone, what do you think they are going to give you back?  Children are learning how to react by watching how you handle things. 
  • Do not direct your fear and anger at your children or your family.  Sometimes we all need a time out so we do not just react.  Sometimes we have to say “I’m sorry.  I was out of line.”  Kids will learn that it is okay to make mistakes and when you do, you acknowledge them and make amends.
  • Set up a protective network for your child…grandparents, extended family, neighbors, friends, etc.  They need as many trusted adults as possible to be their role models.  Sometimes you will not be there and who should they go to?  Sometimes they are mad at you and who can they talk to?  Maybe you need to back up to come and give you a break. 

***This week’s Kid’s Blog is about, “What To Do In An Emergency.”  Please discuss this with your children.  In today’s world things may be different so you will need to rethink how to handle some of these situations.  Friends, family, and neighbors may be needed more than ever. 

Please stay safe and hug your children!

Kathi